Episode 15: Life is Never How You Plan it with Leann Podskalan

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I think there are many of us who in our young naive years had expected we would grow up, get our dream jobs, marry the person of our dreams, and start having babies. All of course by the age of 22 or so. Much like myself, Leann had expected life to go in the direction she had planned. Unfortunately, that’s not realistic, and Leann learned quickly that life isn’t always perfect or fair. From her career changes and adjustments that ultimately brought her to and through nursing school to living in a different state than her husband. It’s clear to say she’s learned how to alter plans and keep moving forward. Listen as she shares her journey through different jobs, nursing school, and as she opens up about the challenges of living in a different state than her husband. How they made it through that challenging time.  Leann is a joy to be around and I am blessed to have a friend like her. Hope you all enjoy!

Episode 14: Sororities, Law School, & the Feeling of “Always a Bridesmaid” with Emily Sexton

sexton.jpgEmily Sexton is one of the biggest “go-getters” I know. Her determination and hard work got her through the University of Michigan, where she mastered being the president of her sorority and making long lasting friendship, to pushing outside her comfort zone and moving to Florida by herself. She always knew she would make her way back to school after her undergrad, which is where she began the long road of law school after another move. It wasn’t easy and through the stress, she watched as many of her friends got engaged and married and some even starting families. That feeling of being “behind” is hard to ignore, but ultimately she took the path that was right for her. Now it’s time for the Bar exam and time to plan her own wedding. We all need to send her good vides over the next couple of weeks! Hope you all enjoy today’s episode.

Social Media Strikes Again

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I bet you saw this title and thought to yourself… again? I’m sorry to be repetitive, but social media is a big part of our lives. I am not joking when I say I spend hours on it almost every day. Maybe not a full hour consistently, but adding up every 5-10 minutes I open up Instagram and just scroll and decide to stalk a celebrity that randomly popped into my head and search thru their entire page till I’m back to 2013 and they weren’t even famous. I can be honest, every time I do this and get mindlessly lost in the app I finally close it and feel guilty. Guilt rushes over me because I think about the time I just wasted when I could have been working, cleaning the house, spending time with my daughter who is currently pulling all of the tissues out of the box because I wasn’t paying attention… shake my head.

Why do we do this?

We follow pages of beautiful women, who in turn, their page will inspire us to go on a diet or work out more than once a month. I know how much we all love paying Planet Fitness their $10 a month, but never actually go there or if we do we spend 10 minutes on the treadmill and go tan. Guilty, again.

Or how about those “Travel accounts” that encourage us to leave all your responsibilities behind and seek adventure and new places. Because it’s super realistic for us to not work and travel the world right?

We get skewed messages from these “insta models” trust me, behind the scenes they have their unpleasant moments, their bank accounts have seen better days. I’m sure they’ve had a zit here and there, or stretch marks that they won’t show us. But again, I am guilty as well, I’m not going to post an ugly picture of myself, or a picture that clearly shows my belly hanging over my jeans, because guess what!? I already know I could do a few more sit-ups now and then… but I don’t need YOU to know that too!

Now what if we were all honest about our lives though? You know how good it feels to talk to a friend who I thought had to all together judging off their social media post. But then talking to them in person, they share the struggles they are going through, like they hate their job, their boyfriend just dumped them, etc. It sounds absolutely horrible, but here I was going into a dinner date with them envious of how great I thought their life was, only to find out they’re struggling just like me or even more! I hate to even “praise” or “get excited” over their issues, but it makes ME feel better. I’m not the only one who doesn’t have it all together.

I hate that. If we didn’t skew our social media pages to only show our best pictures or coolest vacations, maybe we wouldn’t all secretly envy each other. Maybe, we wouldn’t feel so bad about ourselves if we knew the insta model we follow is busting her butt working three jobs just to maintain this “fun” lifestyle she shows us! Or maybe I wouldn’t be sitting here right now scarfing a grapefruit down because I so badly want to look like Blake Lively or my thin neighbor who posts her daily workouts and eat a breakfast that I actually enjoy!

God designed each and every one of us to be special in our own ways. We each have our own talents and set of skills that set us apart. We each are passionate about different things. Social media isn’t going anywhere and although I’d love to say I’ll start posting ugly pictures of myself just to prove a point, I probably won’t. But maybe what we can start doing for ourselves is letting go of the jealousy we feel. Maybe we can start being happy for those who share the good news on social media and recognize the greatness of our own and stop comparing. Maybe we can try letting go of the power social media has over us and learn to accept our bodies, our strengths, and skills and find praise in that alone! I’m not saying to stop following the pages that inspire and motivate you or get rid of all social media. What I’m saying is don’t let social media bring you negativity. Know that we are all going through something whether we post about it or not, no one has a perfect life. Life is what you make it, and staying positive will have a huge effect on yourself! Easier said than done, but we can all give it our best try!

Episode 12: Following Your Heart and Passions Even When It Seems Impossible with Danielle Miller

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Danielle entered her twenties like a lot of us, escaping the high school version of ourselves and growing into the women we set out to be. Through college and switching degrees to casual dating and a quick engagement; she discovered who she was and where she wanted to be. Listen as she shares the story of her passion for marketing, homes, and writing to something a little more personal like the hole in her heart. She is a miracle baby living life to the fullest and never allowing her limitations to create fear or keep her from enjoying the things she loves. She’s now faced with a tough decision about her future because life is not always easy, but her faith in God and love of supporting others keeps her in positive spirits. I am thankful to have connected with her as she grows her side hustle. I am amazed by this lady and so happy she shared. Take a listen and I hope you enjoy! Happy Memorial Day!

Episode 11: First Love, Marriage, and Divorce with Michelle Chang

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I am beyond thankful to this sweet lady, Michelle Chang, for opening up and sharing her challenges through marriage and divorce. No one enters a relationship, let alone a marriage with the expectation of it only lasting several years. However, as we get older I think we are learning that life is not always perfect. Things don’t go as planned and we get curve balls thrown at us from time to time that we learn to push through and grow from. Michelle’s heartbreak is one many of us I’m sure can relate to. Marriage is hard. Two people choosing to spend their lives together need to be able to openly communicate and always be honest with themselves and one another. Divorce was never planned, but what she took away and learned from it was life-changing.